Do’s and Don’ts of Dating a Non-Gamer


In  a previous post, there was an excellent guide about the do’s and don’t of dating a girl gamer, and while a good chunk of the info was spot on, it got me thinking about my significant other. You see, he actually doesn’t play games (not since he came out of the service anyway). Back in the day, long before I met him, he was big into Halo, Call of Duty and all your other typical “bro games” as I lovingly dub them. But these days he won’t even pick up one of my Super Nintendo controllers and retro-nerd out with me.

The more I think about it, the more I’m almost positive that many gamers are probably in the same boat. Granted, I saw a lot more random clueless girlfriends come across my path during my time at my horrid videogame retail store, however, I saw my share of clueless young males waltz in asking for help as well. Which got me to thinking, just what are the do’s and don’ts of dating a non-gamer?

DO: Find other common interests. Although you may spend a huge chunk of your time playing videogames, you’re bound to have other interests. My guy and I can’t talk videogames, but we bond over superhero movies, food, beer, and football. Possibly some of the biggest cliches, but it works for us.

DON’T: Make them feel bad for their lack of gaming knowledge. It’s just something they will never understand because it doesn’t interest them. As long as they accept your videogame obsession, then let it be.

DO: If you want them to buy you a game as a present, be specific. Write down the title, show them a picture, etc. Too many times clueless significant others would come in looking for a game that their partner hadn’t elaborated on enough. If you don’t outright tell them what game you want, there is a high possibility that it’ll be wrong title.

DON’T: Get mad if they do come back with the wrong game. Remember, this is essentially rocket science to them.

DO: Be happy when your non-gaming lover buys you a game in general. Gaming takes away from couple time, and we all know couple time is very important. Or it could just mean they want you out of their hair and/or pants for a bit.

DON’T: Ditch the game they bought you right after you beat it. It might seem like a good idea, but non-gamers don’t always understand the concept of trading games in. I once traded in New Super Mario Bros. 2 for the 3DS because I beat it in six hours. Let’s just say my guy hasn’t purchased a videogame for me since, even when I point out that it was Mario and not one of my standard 60+ hour RPGs.

DO: Try and get them involved in your videogames if you must play while they are around. Although I usually turn off my games as soon as I’m with my guy, there are some times that I’m just too into the story to turn it off. Recently, while playing Murdered: Soul Suspect, I started explaining the story and showing him what I could do as a ghost. For the first time ever, he was legitimately interested and even made a few attempts at telling me where to go to find clues.

DON’T: Continue to push them into getting involved if they just aren’t feeling it. Put the controller down and go do something else, particularly something that involves the bedroom. The happier they are, the more likely you’ll be able to get back to your game.

And on a final note

DO: Make sexual favor bets if you happen to get them to play a videogame with you. News flash, you’re bound to win the bet, and both parties will be happy.

It’s not always easy hashing out your gaming time between the time you spend with your significant other, especially if they are the furthest thing from a gamer. But with dedication, a little creativity, and a well balanced juggling act, your non-gamer/gamer relationship will be a match worthy  of Mario and Princess Peach status.

And if they break up with you, well at least you still have your videogames.

About Emily Horton

Emily is just your average twenty something girl who discovered her love for gaming at the age of three or four, all thanks to her older brothers. Mario, The Lion King, Aladdin, Zelda were her first loves, but Pokemon, Final Fantasy, Tales, and pretty much all Japanese games eventually fell into that category. She has an unhealthy obsession with Pikachu, hoodies, her 3DS, t-shirts, plushies, and purses. She may also fancy herself as an excellent lawyer due to number of times she has played through the Ace Attorney series. Outside of videogames, she is a Disney, Harry Potter, and Tolkien fanatic, while also recently discovering that she is now a hardcore fan of Supernatural thanks to Netflix allowing her to watch eight seasons rapid fire. She has elvish writing, the Deathly Hallows, a rather large Tinkerbelle and a large Yuna from Final Fantasy X all tattooed on her body, with only more geeky stuff to be added. Currently working on her own fantasy novel, she hopes to publish it eventually once all the kinks are worked out.

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